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When we hear a baby’s name, we occasionally cringe subtly because we don’t understand it. Perhaps a child has a name you’ve never heard before, or perhaps the name is so well-known that you’re sick of hearing it.
However, the truth is that you have no voice in the situation unless it involves your child. One family, meanwhile, is seeing some criticism from the toddler’s grandparents. They appear to hate the family’s choice of nickname for their grandchild and are unwilling to follow the parents’ directions.
A Mom Who Wished To Remain Anonymous Turned To Reddit’s Aita Community For Guidance
A mom seeking guidance on whether she is taking a problem too seriously asks for help on a popular discussion channel.
The mother’s first sentence said, “The name of my son is Edward. But since he growled when I first held him, we chose to call him Teddy. It was just adorable.” And because Teddy is a popular nickname for Edward, the post’s author wrote, “We thought it’d be nice.”
According to the OP, not everyone in the family loved the name Teddy, but they were able to bear with it because they were unable to change it.
Well, Everyone Except The Op’s Parents
The poster continues by saying that she gave birth and that her parents didn’t re-enter her life until lately. Her parents “refuse” to call her son Teddy, according to her. She added, “I have argued with them about this numerous times, but they keep refusing.”
OP claims that her kid realized his real name was Edward when he was 18 months old, adding, “But mainly when he’s in trouble do we call him that. Consequently, he is really confused by their calling.”
They believe the name is “immature” and that he “will be bullied for it” [later] on,” the OP continued before stating that she has “known numerous Teddy through school” and that none, to her knowledge, have been bullied; on the contrary, one was a popular student.
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Op’s Parents Seem To Be Very Keen About Using His Full Name
The OP continued, writing, “When I was with my parents at one point, a friend of [theirs] asked me what the baby’s name was. I said “Teddy.” And my father immediately replied in an irate tone, “IT’S EDWARD.” Only YOU refer to him as Teddy.” OP added, “But that isn’t true. Only they don’t; everyone else does.”
The OP provided some further background information regarding her relationship with her parents, stating that “I should add that my… parents try to control every part of my life and how I raise my child.” She continued by stating that these were the causes for the period of time that she and her parents had not spoken.
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She continued by saying that when others inquire about her son’s name, she always responds, “Teddy.” She would then explain that his full name is Edward but that people usually refer to him as Teddy if they have any further questions about it.
According to the OP, Edward is a homage to two important individuals. Edward is also the name of my husband’s paternal grandfather. Therefore I chose Edward as his name because it belonged to the most important person in my life, she continued.
When She Subsequently Asked The Aita Community If She Was Wrong To Insist That Her Parents Call Her Son Teddy, Reactions Were Mixed
Several people made sure the OP realized she was not mistaken in this circumstance and were pleased to give their opinions about it.
“NTA. This is your child, and your parents have no right to dictate what his name is “Someone left a comment.
Given the context of the entire relationship, another commenter added, “Yeah this really sounds like a move for control on their part, OP.” Adding some wise counsel, “Avoid making their mistake:
You don’t need them to refer to him as Teddy, but you do need them to recognize the fact that you and the majority of others will do so. If they can’t, they might be able to leave your life once more as this is a decision you made as a parent and they will probably act out in a worsening manner.”
“My 16-year-old freaks out when she hears her full name, and if I also include her last name, she’ll flee for the hills!” A third comment was made. Adding, “It is not for the rest of us to judge if parents choose a name they both like. In our family, we run the name by the elder generation so it’s not hard to pronounce (we have some odd ones around) and the younger generation to see whether it can be made fun of.”
“NTA. That is strange. Teddy is a legitimate name for Edward and is also a widely used nickname for him. If they continue to act in such a negative manner, I’d genuinely cut them back out of my life.”
Finding a comment that disagrees with the OP while reading the comments is difficult. It makes sense because it isn’t the grandparents’ place to provide their thoughts on the name of their grandchild.
What do you think about these grandparents refusing to call their grandchild by his calling name? Has this kind of problem arisen in your family? If so, how did you solve it? Please let us know in the comments, and don’t forget to spread the news so that we can hear from more people.
Sounds like control issues. I would limit their time with him. We kinda a had a situation. My nieces son looked like peanut first sonogram. Of course w all did. One day he was asked his name. Of course he said peanut. My niece said we needed to call him by name. No harm in them calling him by his legal name.
I have only heard of Teddy being short for Theodore. I’ve heard of Ed Eddy for Edward but not Teddy. However, if you call him Edward when he’s in trouble how is that any different than when his parents call him Edward? No more confusing or less confusing in my opinion
Yes Edward Kennedy was nicknamed Teddy. It is used for both names but Eddy is only used for Edward
Ted Kennedy. First name was Edward.
I think if corrected by either parent by calling my child a nickname I would just ask them to do as they please, but do not correct me when I call my child Teddy. It’s my choice, not yours. If they continue let them know that you will choose not to have them in your life anymore.
You are the parent, hold your ground.
They are disrespectful of you by doing what they are and confusing your son as well. No Grandparent has that right. I am sure no one interfered when they named you.
Sounds like the parents are narcissists, like my Mother is. And there was a present named Theodore “Teddy” Roosevelt. Whe should inform them of that and walk. There is nothing wrong with that name.