Family Feels “Robbed” Since The Dad Would Not Allow Anyone To Hold The Baby Until His Wife Could

It’s a fantastic experience the first time you hold your child. The beginning of a relationship is what will make it stay forever. One family had to travel a different route because they weren’t able to seize this opportunity right away.

One man’s wife, who was also the child’s mother, was unconscious at the time of the birth of his child. This dad determined he would not let anyone hold the baby until she could after she remained unconscious for 4 days.

First-Time Parent Holding Their Child

We all are familiar with and love the sensation of holding a cute little infant in our arms. However, there is no feeling like the one you get when you touch your newborn for the first time. The newborn should always be properly held by the mother or father initially.

This Dad Requested Guidance

A few months back, Reddit user PoppaLoves made a post to the r/amIthea-hole thread. The father was incredibly curious about his contentious choice to forbid his family members from holding his son after his birth.

The Idea Of Being The Last Person To Hold Their Son Didn’t Sit Well With This Man’s Wife.

The wife of this man didn’t like the idea of holding their son last.

“In November of 2019, my wife gave birth to our son. We knew an emergency C-section would be required, but she had a really difficult pregnancy and ended up needing one. She revealed that she hated the idea that she would be the last to hold our boy after we had spoken about it for a while.”

He, Therefore, Refused To Let Anyone Else Hold The Infant Till She Woke Up.

So, after he was born and she was still unconscious, his father stopped anyone from their families from holding him or, frankly, even seeing him. They saw him after the delivery and had some communication with him, but that was about it.

Fortunately, his wife made a full recovery after four days of unconsciousness so that she could meet and embrace their son. Everyone else could meet and hold him for the first time the following day. “Our families were upset, but aside from my mom and sister who were a little forceful about it, nothing really got started,” he explains.

The Occasion

“We had a problem in January. My wife talked about how difficult the birth had been while posting some pictures of herself holding our kid for the first time.”

His wife’s goal in doing this was to spread the word about how risky pregnancy and childbirth may be while also expressing her gratitude for their safety.

You Stole Us.

“The man explains that his mother and sister “then truly started acting like kids” at this time. claiming that it wasn’t fair and that we had robbed them of those early days with their grandson or nephew.”

He then explains that he had previously told them that many people encounter their grandchildren and nieces and nephews days, perhaps weeks, or even months, following delivery.

Additionally, it would have taken them a lot longer to wait if their kid had been born during the pandemic. They claimed he was being selfish by doing it because his wife was unable to meet or hold the child.

He Experienced Conflict.

The father explains in his last statement that he is only torn about it because “someone else felt I robbed my son of having more interaction early on.”

“While most of me is screaming hell no, I wanted to see what a lot of internet strangers would think,” the author says. “I should have thought of him over my wife’s thoughts on the whole thing.”

He Persisted In Sticking To His Principles.

Due to the notion that mothers should always be the first to touch their newborns, most people believed that this dad was in no way wrong in this circumstance.

And he held to his principles and refused to compromise by allowing his family to hold the baby before her.

A Traumatic Birthing Process Took Place.

Many people believed that the man’s mother and sister were being self-centered by considering themselves in this circumstance.

Let’s not overlook the fact that the mother of the child was unconscious for 4 days, which was likely highly distressing for everyone involved.

Some People Gave Their Personal Experiences

The baby’s mother was unconscious due to problems, so this poor father had to cope with his family, who were disappointed because they couldn’t hold the child. Not to mention, it was just a matter of days. New parents during the epidemic were unable to even visit family for weeks or months at a time.

This Reddit member claimed that due to the emotional strain they were experiencing while their baby was in the hospital, they told the parents a white lie.

Sister And Mom Are Selfish

In general, people believed that the mother and sister, in particular, were acting very self-centered in this situation

It’s really strange that they are still angry about the baby even though it was born in November 2019.

It’s Safe To Say That Everyone Supported The Father.

There were no comments negative of the father’s choice to wait till his wife woke up before letting extended family hold the infant.

Conclusion: This person was definitely not the a-hole.

Internet Outrage When Mother-In-Law Secretly Changes Newborn’s Name

She learned that her mother-in-law was responsible for changing the middle name she and her husband had chosen for their child behind her back.

The mother-in-law obviously went too far, but as we soon discovered, she wasn’t the only one at fault.

It Was Not Just A Simple Mistake.

Mama Bear was astonished to see that the middle name on her 2-month-old son’s birth certificate and Social Security card was spelled “Finlay” rather than “Finley.”

Mama Bear saw Something was wrong even though there was only a one-letter discrepancy.

She Had A Hunch Something Was Going On.

The middle name was carefully chosen with the understanding that it would be spelled with an E by Mama Bear and her spouse.

The new mother was initially rather confused but understood it wasn’t just a typo.

It’s Already Difficult Enough To Choose A Name.

Let’s face it, picking a name for a child is one of the most difficult steps in the process.

The first step is for both parents to go through the lengthy list of persons they despise and cross those people off. The next step is to identify a point of agreement for the two of you.

They Have Given That Name A Lot Of Thought.

The middle name is frequently a concession or negotiating point used by one of the parents.

Choosing the perfect name takes a lot of time and work, so learning that it was all in vain may be very upsetting.

Mama Bear Immediately Confronted Her Husband.

Mama Bear’s first action was to see her husband, who was the source.

While Mama Bear was in the hospital resting from her C-section, he was the one who completed their son’s papers.

He Explained Everything To Her.

Her spouse said that he had changed the spelling on purpose after his mother “guilt-tripped him into doing it” when she presented the proof to him.

He claimed to have regretted it as soon as the Social Security card arrived, but he couldn’t bring himself to say it.

Mama Bear Claims That Her Mother-In-Law Was Deceitful And Dishonest.

Mama Bear continued to probe and discovered that her mother-in-law had initially called her husband to try and persuade him to completely change the name.

Mama Bear would “get furious, but get over it,” according to her mother-in-law, who wanted the boy to have a different first name.

Her Mother-In-Law Is Still Making An Effort To Communicate.

As “Finlay” seemed more masculine in her opinion, the mother-in-law ultimately decided to use an alternative spelling of Finley.

Even sending a Christmas card with the middle name on it as a “jab” at Mama Bear, the mother-in-law.

People Began To Doubt The Husband As A Result.

According to Mama Bear, the mother-in-law has always been a scam artist and didn’t like her. In fact, she claimed that, more than anything, the whole incident made her wonder about her marriage.

When it came to her husband’s decision to lie and do things behind Mama Bear’s back, even the advice columnist wasn’t mincing words.

She Won’t Forget

Mama Bear intends to have the name changed legally but is still unsure of how to contact her mother-in-law about it.

However, we can be sure that Mama Bear won’t forget about this incident for a very long time.

Which side are you in this story? Do you think what the man did was right? Do you support the wife or mother-in-law? Please let us know in the comments, and don’t forget to spread the news so that we can hear from more people.